Thank you everyone for the SWEET comments, messages, and prayers! We are SO blessed!! Just wanted to share the picture that I wanted to share last night... Insert this pic in the bottom of last night's post: ;)
Goodness gracious... aren't they precious? :) Their little personalities come shining through in this pic... Faith's hair is blowing in the wind like a glamorous run-way model. Grace's head is to the side a smidgen with that million dollar smile about to emerge! Am I not the most blessed Mama in the ENTIRE WORLD!!!! Precious babies.. thank you Jesus for all 4 of my precious babies!
Join us as we follow God's prompting to grow our family through international adoption, and embark on a journey to Kazakhstan to adopt our children.
Thursday, August 30, 2012
Wednesday, August 29, 2012
An update...
A long overdue post is the understatement of the century. I have not neglected posting on my blog on purpose. In fact, I’ve had very good intentions to post lots of things. There is very rarely a day goes by that I don’t wish I had the energy at the end of that day to post. There have been so many things that I’ve wanted to share…. Creative ways I’ve attempted to help my family grow and be more like the Lord… and then there has been pain and hurt and discouragement as well. I intended to keep this blog going… and not be one of ‘those’ blogs who falls off the earth when the kids finally do come home… SIGH…. I had NO idea what it would ‘really’ be like when I had those thoughts… BIG SIGH!!!
It really is with mixed emotions that I sit tonight to write this blog post. I am just as tired as I was last night… and honestly, it’s most likely the Nyquil high that I’m on that is pushing me to write this. Here I sit another night when Phil’s out of town with work (there have been SO many of these nights since March 15, 2010 that if I start adding them up I get sick).
Actually this day was fairly good… I’d classify today as a “good” day for our family.
Yes, it was stressful, and there were times that were INTENSE, but overall it was a good day. Faith and Grace both had decent days at school and that honestly makes EVERYONES day better.
Yesterday was one of the worst for them.
I really feel as if I’m rambling and going in massive circles here… but, that’s what my heart and brain are doing as well… so I guess it’s just normal that my writing would follow suit.
I decided tonight that I was going to write about some of the HARD stuff we’ve experienced. I have yet to really be honest and share for many reasons. Please don’t keep reading my blog if you are not here in LOVING support of my family. And…. I AM NOT KIDDING! I really can’t handle it… and am not interested in listening unless you really care about me and my family. Friendly reminder… this is MY blog.. my families blog! Thanks…
Ok… so, please know that I share these struggles out of a place that is SO hard to describe. I love these babies. I can promise you that there is not ANYONE anywhere on the face of this earth that loves them as much as I do! I would do everything I did again and again and again to bring them home even if I knew what I know now…. I would CHOOSE to start over at day one and fight for them! I would choose to fight for them…. It is out of that very place… this DEEP amazing love that my heart cries tonight.
Faith and Grace have been home for almost 18 months. 1 ½ years that they have been OUR daughters… in OUR home… in OUR care!!
There have been times in those days/months/weeks that have been truly amazing. They have bonded with us in ways that have been astonishing. There have been serious triumphs and gains and astonishing ways they have grown YEARS in advancement. Their language has blossomed, their gross motor skills have sky rocketed, their fine motor skills have increased. They have advanced and changed and blossomed before our very eyes. That has been beyond amazing to watch. There is really no way to express in words how it has felt to watch them grow and develop and mature. Amazing and God’s prints were/are ALL. OVER. IT! Love watching him work!
In the midst of those amazing gains there have been bad days, and even worse days… and days were I struggled to hold it all together. There have been days were I wanted to crawl away hide. There have been days were I wanted some peace and quiet. There were days were they spit on Dr’s and nurses, family members and each other. There have been days were my heart broke for Bailey and Brooklyn and I begged God to please please help them to see past it all and know it was HIS plan. There have been days that I’ve just taken B and B and we’ve gotten away.
There have been days were all things went great. Everyone was happy, smiles, love abounded and all seems fine! There were and are days were the slightest thing triggers someone and they are over stimulated and over the top. There have been days were Bay and Brook were the stimulants. Sometimes we know and sense these things/triggers. Sometimes we have NO idea and are broadsided with it.
I have read books, attempted to educate myself, and brush up on all my childhood development/behavioral management classes. I’ve tried to remember what I learned in Grad. School…. I’ve called in help from co-workers, friends, etc. I have asked friends for help, asked Dr’s for help and tried every single trick I feel I have in my bag of tricks.
We’ve spanked (don’t read that if you don’t spank), put in time out, loved on, and tried so many different behavior management tricks. We’ve made charts, earned stickers, and had our favorite things taken away. I have educated family, friends, etc.. attempted in my feeble little mind to wrap my mind around and understand things like PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder/syndrome), CAPD (Central Auditory Processing Disorder) and RAD (Reactive attachment Disorder). I’ve tried so hard for not one second to dismiss that either of my babies could be suffering from one or all the above diagnosises. I’ve gone back and forth from trying to figure out the ‘why’ they are acting the way they are…. To not caring about the ‘why’.. just helping the now!
I have friends who are OT’s, SLP’s, and trained in behavior management, sensory processing stuff…. I’ve asked for favors, and ideas and thoughts.
There have been days (like last night) when I put my head literally on the table and bawled. Days were I’ve not known what in the world to do to continue to help them.
I’ve begged others to pray, taken them forward for prayer, and begged God to help us/them. Please don’t think for one second that I am discounting prayer or the amazing power of our God. I am not… Anyone who knows me or has been reading this blog for anytime at all KNOWS that I Love the Lord with all my heart…. My main focus in life is to serve him…. My life to GLORIFY him in all things!
People ask me how we are doing and I always second guess my answer and what to really answer. I want to be open and honest. I know that lots of times a humble heart and willingness to truly share our trails really helps others. I promised myself and the Lord long ago that I would attempt to be transparent before others…. Therefore hopefully helping someone to be more like him. I would never EVER want to not tell someone the truth, but at the same time I don’ t want the world to know how badly we struggle sometimes. How badly I struggle. I wish I had the answers. I wish I knew what to do… I wish I could see that I’m ‘really’ helping them. I wish I could just erase all the pain and hurt and sadness from their little lives/hearts. I can not…but, I know WHO can… and I TRUST in that! The word says to “lean not to thine OWN understanding, but with prayer present your requests before the Lord…” I am SO SO SO thankful that in the midst of feeling like a rag doll tossed about on a stormy cliff, I know who calms the storm.
Lord, In all things – I trust you!
I will continue to try new things, be consistent and love them despite the struggles. I will continue to support adoption and advocate for the babies still without forever families. The babies that I still see almost every single night when I close my eyes. The babies still starving, malnourished, and aching for love and affection. Babies who are being mistreated and neglected and babies who are tied in their cribs at this very moment. My heart BREAKS for those babies all over the world. However, I now realize that adoption IS not for everyone. It is NOT easy and there are times that are almost more than this feeble Mama can bare, but you know what… one day this will all be behind us and o what a GLORIOUS day that will be!
Anyone have some GREAT advice? Anyone have a super amazing trick in your bag o tricks that has worked for your institutionalized child? I am completely out of tricks…but, goodness would love a few new ideas!
If you really will pray for my precious little Faith and Grace (and us)…. Will you please let this Mama know? Reading that a few of you are ‘really’ praying would mean so much to me… and goodness we could use the prayers.
Big sigh…. Now to decide if I really post this or not! ;(
(Disclaimer: I wrote this last night, but didn’t post it.. Today they had another GOOD day! I can not even tell you how exciting it is to know they had 2 good days in a row at school. Believing and trusting for Day 3 to be amazing as well! Today – after day 2 in a row – We got to go to the ice cream truck! Yes, I know… sugar, candy, etc…. but, sometimes YOU are DESPERATE to find a motivation that is strong enough to work… . Guess what tomorrow’s motivation is - Nana promised them M & M’s… Honestly if that is enough to help them to have good days and make good choices... well, a little chocolate never hurt anyone… and maybe, just maybe they’ll gain a pound of two in the middle of all this! ;))
… and just so you don’t forget how stinking cute and adorable they are….
Here’s a precious picture I snapped the other day:
(well... I will attempt to post this pic later - can't get it to upload... darn Blogger - You'll just have to trust me.. They are BEYOND stinking adorable! ;))
It really is with mixed emotions that I sit tonight to write this blog post. I am just as tired as I was last night… and honestly, it’s most likely the Nyquil high that I’m on that is pushing me to write this. Here I sit another night when Phil’s out of town with work (there have been SO many of these nights since March 15, 2010 that if I start adding them up I get sick).
Actually this day was fairly good… I’d classify today as a “good” day for our family.
Yes, it was stressful, and there were times that were INTENSE, but overall it was a good day. Faith and Grace both had decent days at school and that honestly makes EVERYONES day better.
Yesterday was one of the worst for them.
I really feel as if I’m rambling and going in massive circles here… but, that’s what my heart and brain are doing as well… so I guess it’s just normal that my writing would follow suit.
I decided tonight that I was going to write about some of the HARD stuff we’ve experienced. I have yet to really be honest and share for many reasons. Please don’t keep reading my blog if you are not here in LOVING support of my family. And…. I AM NOT KIDDING! I really can’t handle it… and am not interested in listening unless you really care about me and my family. Friendly reminder… this is MY blog.. my families blog! Thanks…
Ok… so, please know that I share these struggles out of a place that is SO hard to describe. I love these babies. I can promise you that there is not ANYONE anywhere on the face of this earth that loves them as much as I do! I would do everything I did again and again and again to bring them home even if I knew what I know now…. I would CHOOSE to start over at day one and fight for them! I would choose to fight for them…. It is out of that very place… this DEEP amazing love that my heart cries tonight.
Faith and Grace have been home for almost 18 months. 1 ½ years that they have been OUR daughters… in OUR home… in OUR care!!
There have been times in those days/months/weeks that have been truly amazing. They have bonded with us in ways that have been astonishing. There have been serious triumphs and gains and astonishing ways they have grown YEARS in advancement. Their language has blossomed, their gross motor skills have sky rocketed, their fine motor skills have increased. They have advanced and changed and blossomed before our very eyes. That has been beyond amazing to watch. There is really no way to express in words how it has felt to watch them grow and develop and mature. Amazing and God’s prints were/are ALL. OVER. IT! Love watching him work!
In the midst of those amazing gains there have been bad days, and even worse days… and days were I struggled to hold it all together. There have been days were I wanted to crawl away hide. There have been days were I wanted some peace and quiet. There were days were they spit on Dr’s and nurses, family members and each other. There have been days were my heart broke for Bailey and Brooklyn and I begged God to please please help them to see past it all and know it was HIS plan. There have been days that I’ve just taken B and B and we’ve gotten away.
There have been days were all things went great. Everyone was happy, smiles, love abounded and all seems fine! There were and are days were the slightest thing triggers someone and they are over stimulated and over the top. There have been days were Bay and Brook were the stimulants. Sometimes we know and sense these things/triggers. Sometimes we have NO idea and are broadsided with it.
I have read books, attempted to educate myself, and brush up on all my childhood development/behavioral management classes. I’ve tried to remember what I learned in Grad. School…. I’ve called in help from co-workers, friends, etc. I have asked friends for help, asked Dr’s for help and tried every single trick I feel I have in my bag of tricks.
We’ve spanked (don’t read that if you don’t spank), put in time out, loved on, and tried so many different behavior management tricks. We’ve made charts, earned stickers, and had our favorite things taken away. I have educated family, friends, etc.. attempted in my feeble little mind to wrap my mind around and understand things like PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder/syndrome), CAPD (Central Auditory Processing Disorder) and RAD (Reactive attachment Disorder). I’ve tried so hard for not one second to dismiss that either of my babies could be suffering from one or all the above diagnosises. I’ve gone back and forth from trying to figure out the ‘why’ they are acting the way they are…. To not caring about the ‘why’.. just helping the now!
I have friends who are OT’s, SLP’s, and trained in behavior management, sensory processing stuff…. I’ve asked for favors, and ideas and thoughts.
There have been days (like last night) when I put my head literally on the table and bawled. Days were I’ve not known what in the world to do to continue to help them.
I’ve begged others to pray, taken them forward for prayer, and begged God to help us/them. Please don’t think for one second that I am discounting prayer or the amazing power of our God. I am not… Anyone who knows me or has been reading this blog for anytime at all KNOWS that I Love the Lord with all my heart…. My main focus in life is to serve him…. My life to GLORIFY him in all things!
People ask me how we are doing and I always second guess my answer and what to really answer. I want to be open and honest. I know that lots of times a humble heart and willingness to truly share our trails really helps others. I promised myself and the Lord long ago that I would attempt to be transparent before others…. Therefore hopefully helping someone to be more like him. I would never EVER want to not tell someone the truth, but at the same time I don’ t want the world to know how badly we struggle sometimes. How badly I struggle. I wish I had the answers. I wish I knew what to do… I wish I could see that I’m ‘really’ helping them. I wish I could just erase all the pain and hurt and sadness from their little lives/hearts. I can not…but, I know WHO can… and I TRUST in that! The word says to “lean not to thine OWN understanding, but with prayer present your requests before the Lord…” I am SO SO SO thankful that in the midst of feeling like a rag doll tossed about on a stormy cliff, I know who calms the storm.
Lord, In all things – I trust you!
I will continue to try new things, be consistent and love them despite the struggles. I will continue to support adoption and advocate for the babies still without forever families. The babies that I still see almost every single night when I close my eyes. The babies still starving, malnourished, and aching for love and affection. Babies who are being mistreated and neglected and babies who are tied in their cribs at this very moment. My heart BREAKS for those babies all over the world. However, I now realize that adoption IS not for everyone. It is NOT easy and there are times that are almost more than this feeble Mama can bare, but you know what… one day this will all be behind us and o what a GLORIOUS day that will be!
Anyone have some GREAT advice? Anyone have a super amazing trick in your bag o tricks that has worked for your institutionalized child? I am completely out of tricks…but, goodness would love a few new ideas!
If you really will pray for my precious little Faith and Grace (and us)…. Will you please let this Mama know? Reading that a few of you are ‘really’ praying would mean so much to me… and goodness we could use the prayers.
Big sigh…. Now to decide if I really post this or not! ;(
(Disclaimer: I wrote this last night, but didn’t post it.. Today they had another GOOD day! I can not even tell you how exciting it is to know they had 2 good days in a row at school. Believing and trusting for Day 3 to be amazing as well! Today – after day 2 in a row – We got to go to the ice cream truck! Yes, I know… sugar, candy, etc…. but, sometimes YOU are DESPERATE to find a motivation that is strong enough to work… . Guess what tomorrow’s motivation is - Nana promised them M & M’s… Honestly if that is enough to help them to have good days and make good choices... well, a little chocolate never hurt anyone… and maybe, just maybe they’ll gain a pound of two in the middle of all this! ;))
… and just so you don’t forget how stinking cute and adorable they are….
Here’s a precious picture I snapped the other day:
(well... I will attempt to post this pic later - can't get it to upload... darn Blogger - You'll just have to trust me.. They are BEYOND stinking adorable! ;))
Thursday, March 15, 2012
Home for ONE year!
It's been one year since they came home... ONE year!! I remember wondering if I'd be able to stand - I knew God's presence would be so unreal in that airport... and I. WAS. CORRECT! Amazing... and miraculous... just like my Jesus!!!
Here's the video from the airport! Goodness how all 4 of the girls have changed SO much. I knew Faith and Grace were shocked and overwhelmed, but re watching the video made me realize how scared they were.... Poor babies! :( Makes me sad realizing they were SO overwhelmed. HELLO... wonder what I expected! Big sigh... I'll just treat it as another 'rookie' parenting moment! Ha!
(Scroll to bottom of blog and pause the music playing in background BEFORE playing video... ;)
The twins were VERY excited about this day and we've talked about it for a week or so gearing up for the day! They were SO excited to watch the video over and over and over! We all sat down as a family and watched it after dinner a couple of times. There were TEARS all around! Everyone was VERY touched. It was such a special day for ALL of us! Bay and Brook LOVE watching the video too... and honestly, it's just the sweetest family event for all of us!
Bay and Brook had softball practice that evening, so we only watched the video together (all 6) a couple times, until they had to wipe their eyes and rush out the door with Dad for practice.
Faith and Grace and I stayed home and they watched the video OVER and OVER and OVER.
They were making such sweet comments and talking about it and remembering stuff... it was precious. After watching the 9th time... I thought - I should video them watching this EVERY year on this day. That would be a sweet keepsake and fun thing to have and watch and see their comments change, ect! :) Ok... so I grab my phone and take the following video.
Now... keep in mind that this was NOT planned! LOL!
(All you super moms out there will have to cut me some slack... they are in mismatched PLAY clothes - their faces are dirty (they'd been playing outside in the sandbox, trampoline, tricycles, etc), their hair needs to be brushed, etc....)
BUT, I just had to share... I think you will enjoy watching them!
Here they are ONE year later:
Amazing... aren't they amazing? :)
Phil and I stayed up LATE watching video of them from the airport and from the first few weeks home. They are different kids!
We have ALL learned so much in this year and are so excited to watch God's perfect plan unfold for all 6 of our lives!
Have a BLESSED day!
Here's the video from the airport! Goodness how all 4 of the girls have changed SO much. I knew Faith and Grace were shocked and overwhelmed, but re watching the video made me realize how scared they were.... Poor babies! :( Makes me sad realizing they were SO overwhelmed. HELLO... wonder what I expected! Big sigh... I'll just treat it as another 'rookie' parenting moment! Ha!
(Scroll to bottom of blog and pause the music playing in background BEFORE playing video... ;)
The twins were VERY excited about this day and we've talked about it for a week or so gearing up for the day! They were SO excited to watch the video over and over and over! We all sat down as a family and watched it after dinner a couple of times. There were TEARS all around! Everyone was VERY touched. It was such a special day for ALL of us! Bay and Brook LOVE watching the video too... and honestly, it's just the sweetest family event for all of us!
Bay and Brook had softball practice that evening, so we only watched the video together (all 6) a couple times, until they had to wipe their eyes and rush out the door with Dad for practice.
Faith and Grace and I stayed home and they watched the video OVER and OVER and OVER.
They were making such sweet comments and talking about it and remembering stuff... it was precious. After watching the 9th time... I thought - I should video them watching this EVERY year on this day. That would be a sweet keepsake and fun thing to have and watch and see their comments change, ect! :) Ok... so I grab my phone and take the following video.
Now... keep in mind that this was NOT planned! LOL!
(All you super moms out there will have to cut me some slack... they are in mismatched PLAY clothes - their faces are dirty (they'd been playing outside in the sandbox, trampoline, tricycles, etc), their hair needs to be brushed, etc....)
BUT, I just had to share... I think you will enjoy watching them!
Here they are ONE year later:
Amazing... aren't they amazing? :)
Phil and I stayed up LATE watching video of them from the airport and from the first few weeks home. They are different kids!
We have ALL learned so much in this year and are so excited to watch God's perfect plan unfold for all 6 of our lives!
Have a BLESSED day!
Monday, January 23, 2012
"Tearing down the Impossible!"
I have mentioned a couple of times recently about the promptings in my spirit lately... and I just wanted to share with you a couple of things tonight!
I have signed up to receive updates from several blogs of woman that really encourage my heart... I received an email update from one of them today, who completely resonated with my heart regarding, "Tearing down the Impossibles in YOUR life!" Click here to read the post and visit her blog!
SO... as I read what she wrote today, I could relate in SO many ways.
I can not even tell you how glad I am that for one time/journey/situation in my life - I DID NOT allow the dream to be silenced.
There were many times/ways/people/things that attempted to silence it. SOME didn't even know they were attempting to silence it... some KNEW! There were days that it all looked so impossible that it was OVERWHELMING!
The silencing was attempted from the VERY beginning.... and continues EVEN today. There are always going to be people who are just going to be negative and tear you down with words, looks, comments, or with their absence of words, looks, or comments.
As I've also mentioned before about Faith and Grace really teaching me/us so much - this has never been more true than when looking at this journey from this angle. I have learned SO SO much during this journey, and I've grown in ways that humble and amaze even me. BUT, there are times that I still fight against the voices/things/feelings who try to silence it.
I have seen God move in ways that are unbelievable... in fact, some think/believe that it wasn't even God who did this very thing in my life... some think it was just part of the big plan of life and regardless of a God being there or not - it would have happened if it was 'meant' to be.
Thus attempting to "silence the dream!"
I could give you specific examples of things that happened, things that didn't happen, family members who hurt us, friends who deserted us, and close family and friends who just ignored us and walked away.
PLEASE today... consider these words and know that they were for you! Find the possible inside the impossible... It's RIGHT there! I know some of you are struggling with things/people/ situations who are silencing you.... PLEASE focus on the possible that is right inside the impossible. BE encouraged today... have FAITH and trust that God never calls us to do anything that he's not already equipped us with the ability to do!
I have to leave you with the last portion of Lysa's blog post:
I have signed up to receive updates from several blogs of woman that really encourage my heart... I received an email update from one of them today, who completely resonated with my heart regarding, "Tearing down the Impossibles in YOUR life!" Click here to read the post and visit her blog!
SO... as I read what she wrote today, I could relate in SO many ways.
I can not even tell you how glad I am that for one time/journey/situation in my life - I DID NOT allow the dream to be silenced.
There were many times/ways/people/things that attempted to silence it. SOME didn't even know they were attempting to silence it... some KNEW! There were days that it all looked so impossible that it was OVERWHELMING!
The silencing was attempted from the VERY beginning.... and continues EVEN today. There are always going to be people who are just going to be negative and tear you down with words, looks, comments, or with their absence of words, looks, or comments.
As I've also mentioned before about Faith and Grace really teaching me/us so much - this has never been more true than when looking at this journey from this angle. I have learned SO SO much during this journey, and I've grown in ways that humble and amaze even me. BUT, there are times that I still fight against the voices/things/feelings who try to silence it.
I have seen God move in ways that are unbelievable... in fact, some think/believe that it wasn't even God who did this very thing in my life... some think it was just part of the big plan of life and regardless of a God being there or not - it would have happened if it was 'meant' to be.
Thus attempting to "silence the dream!"
I could give you specific examples of things that happened, things that didn't happen, family members who hurt us, friends who deserted us, and close family and friends who just ignored us and walked away.
PLEASE today... consider these words and know that they were for you! Find the possible inside the impossible... It's RIGHT there! I know some of you are struggling with things/people/ situations who are silencing you.... PLEASE focus on the possible that is right inside the impossible. BE encouraged today... have FAITH and trust that God never calls us to do anything that he's not already equipped us with the ability to do!
I have to leave you with the last portion of Lysa's blog post:
"Oh how impossibility loves to scream into gaps of silenced dreams.
But here’s the thing about impossible- there is some part of what we’re attempting that isn’t impossible.
All impossibilities have a weak spot.
And that’s the exact place where we must attack.
A book might seem impossible. But that’s not where writers should start anyhow. There’s an article that could be written. Or in today’s world a tweet that could be crafted. Or a blog posted.
Write there. In the weak spot of impossibility.
Maybe it’s your marriage that seems impossible. Go against the grain of your hurt feelings and silent brush-offs. Think on just one thing you do love about that man of yours today. Send him a text about how much you appreciate that one thing. Praise him for that one thing. Tell someone else about that one thing you noticed today.
Start there. In the weak spot of impossibility.
I don’t know what impossibility you might be facing today.
But remember- all impossibilities have a weak spot. It’s there. Ask God to show you where it is. Ask God for just enough strength to attack there. Tear it down one good decision at a time.
And soon you will see, inside every impossible is the word “possible”… if only we dare to see it."
Taken from Lysa TerKeurst's Blog - www.lysaterkeurst.com
Saturday, January 21, 2012
A year later... a different perspective!
It's 12:20 am on Jan. 21st, 2012... in my mind it still feels like Jan. 20, 2012.... so let me fill you in on my day just a little bit.
Phil had elbow surgery today. We've been in the hospital all day. His surgery was this morning and it took a little over 3 hours, then recovery and finally in a room this evening! It was a LONG day. He is doing good, but in a lot of pain! Morphine + some other NICE strong pain meds are helping him out and he's enjoying that IV drip... I on the other hand am a little stir crazy. I can't stop thinking about one year ago RIGHT now...
Goodness... how has it been a year already? and GOODNESS... it feels like 12 years ago! It's amazing how it feels like such a long time ago and just yesterday all in the same thought!
Today has been a good day... despite being concerned about my Phil! :) It was one of those days that I knew I was EXACTLY where I was supposed to be at the EXACT time I was supposed to be there. I. LOVE. KNOWING. THAT! It makes me smile inside and feel so humbled at the same time! I can't tell you how wonderful it really feels to share about our amazing God! I can remember a time when I was leery to share... and wondered how people would look at me, think of me, or label me... Not anymore... honestly, it gets easier EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. you share and the amazing feeling of 'knowing' you are sharing about the Lord... well, that's indescribable to me! Try it... you will not believe how wonderful it feels! As you've probably guessed I had some conversations with some people in the waiting room today. Amazing... While I was chatting with, showing love to, and getting to know COMPLETE strangers - who just 'happened' (yeah right) to be in the exact waiting room I was in today... I realized that maybe I should volunteer and just show up in hospitals. There were SO many worried people in that one large area today. It was so amazing to just begin to talk with them... and before you know it... God is opening up an amazing door to witness for him! SIMPLY amazing!
I also enjoyed today with 'just' my Phil! I'm sure he will shake his head at me and smile (maybe ;)) in a few days when he reads this, but we talked on the way to the hospital about where we were one year ago right now.
ONE year ago right now... I can tell you exactly where we were... Jan. 20, 2011 was the day we had court session number 6! It was a day of desperation for us... it was a day that we wondered if we would survive the very thing God had called us to do... It was the day BEFORE our breakthrough and man o man am I SO glad and thankful that we didn't give up... You see we were ONCE again on the BRINK of something amazing. We didn't know it, but HE knew it! Remember that this story of our journey and life is for YOU... to remind YOU tonight/today/tomorrow that you never know when YOUR miracle is 12 hours from occurring. You never know - God could be sending your miracle the very next second. If you'd like to read about where we were one year ago today... CLICK HERE.
Don't give up my precious friends! No matter what the circumstances around you look like! No matter who is believing or trusting with you! No matter how impossible it looks! No matter how you FEEL! DIG into the word... quote scriptures OUT LOUD and remind the Lord of the promises that he has promised YOU! Those scriptures in that bible are for YOU and me! You can trust him! Believe him... HE desires to see YOUR hearts desire come to pass. HE LOVES YOU and cares where you are today! In fact, I believe IF you are reading this, it was for a purpose! :) He knew you needed to read it!
Sorry... I got a little 'preachy' there! Sometimes that just happens when I start writing!
In between talking with my new friends (waiting room companions) I've had LOTS of alone time to think! Phil and I talked on the way here about the past year and we talked about IF we could go back one year in time EXACTLY - back to that court room in Kazak... would we do anything differently?! It was an eye opener for us and made us realize that we needed to live each day with NO regrets! I wish I could look back over the past year and say that I had NO regrets, but, that's not true... We do have things we'd do differently! Goodness...those first few weeks home.. (if I knew what I know now) would most definitely be differently!
So... It's actually 12:45 am here... so in Pavlador, Kazakhstan it's 12:36 pm on Jan. 21, 2012. That means that exactly ONE year ago right now we were at the apartment getting ready to go to court session number 7! It was NOT a fun time... I will never forget it. I don't think we ate anything. I think we were fairly silent and it was a pretty quite place. Phil focused on praise and worship songs on his MP3. I read, reread and quoted EVERY single scripture I could find and remember. I sat at this very laptop at the desk in that apartment and read and reread all YOUR comments and messages. Comments of love, prayers and MASSIVE concern. If you sent us a message - YOU will never know how much to encouraged us! THANK YOU! Some of you sent messages more than once... if that was you.. THANK you a million times over... and if you prayed... thank you a zillion times.
Phil is dozing in and and out of sleep... If you'd have told me where I'd be today ONE year ago right now.. I'd have laughed and said BRING it on! Now.... I'd go back there! Isn't it amazing how life works? Phil had pizza for dinner (it sounded good to him) and I asked him if it was good. He said, "It's ok, but it's NOT Classic Pizza!"
Jan. 21, 2011 - It was the day that the judge FINALLY said YES! It was not what I had anticipated.... now, don't get me wrong... it was awesome, incredible, and amazing! We were humbled, honored, and OH so so thankful! Looking back at the blog, I realize I didn't even update for weeks later... sorry about that!
I honestly got SO sick. I can't even explain how physically sick I became while we were at Krendal's celebrating that night... and it just continued to get worse and worse. I remember the flight from Pavlodar to Almaty - I stayed in the bathroom of that little plane for 80% of the flight... SO sick! It was the physical effects of fighting on so many levels for so long (I think)... and the combination of leaving F and G there. It was heartbreaking, yet ok... because we knew they were REALLY ours.
One year - 365 days ago right now... was life changing for us! We were blessed beyond our wildest imagination and didn't even really know or realize how much we were being 'saved' by two precious, tiny, underweight, miraculous twin babies! 365 days ago they were kissing a book with pictures of their Nana and sisters... TONIGHT they are snuggled up with Nana in her house- sleeping soundly! Their tummies are full, their hearts are full, and I can promise you they KNOW they are loved by their family and an amazing SAVIOR! :)
Phil had elbow surgery today. We've been in the hospital all day. His surgery was this morning and it took a little over 3 hours, then recovery and finally in a room this evening! It was a LONG day. He is doing good, but in a lot of pain! Morphine + some other NICE strong pain meds are helping him out and he's enjoying that IV drip... I on the other hand am a little stir crazy. I can't stop thinking about one year ago RIGHT now...
Goodness... how has it been a year already? and GOODNESS... it feels like 12 years ago! It's amazing how it feels like such a long time ago and just yesterday all in the same thought!
Today has been a good day... despite being concerned about my Phil! :) It was one of those days that I knew I was EXACTLY where I was supposed to be at the EXACT time I was supposed to be there. I. LOVE. KNOWING. THAT! It makes me smile inside and feel so humbled at the same time! I can't tell you how wonderful it really feels to share about our amazing God! I can remember a time when I was leery to share... and wondered how people would look at me, think of me, or label me... Not anymore... honestly, it gets easier EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. you share and the amazing feeling of 'knowing' you are sharing about the Lord... well, that's indescribable to me! Try it... you will not believe how wonderful it feels! As you've probably guessed I had some conversations with some people in the waiting room today. Amazing... While I was chatting with, showing love to, and getting to know COMPLETE strangers - who just 'happened' (yeah right) to be in the exact waiting room I was in today... I realized that maybe I should volunteer and just show up in hospitals. There were SO many worried people in that one large area today. It was so amazing to just begin to talk with them... and before you know it... God is opening up an amazing door to witness for him! SIMPLY amazing!
I also enjoyed today with 'just' my Phil! I'm sure he will shake his head at me and smile (maybe ;)) in a few days when he reads this, but we talked on the way to the hospital about where we were one year ago right now.
ONE year ago right now... I can tell you exactly where we were... Jan. 20, 2011 was the day we had court session number 6! It was a day of desperation for us... it was a day that we wondered if we would survive the very thing God had called us to do... It was the day BEFORE our breakthrough and man o man am I SO glad and thankful that we didn't give up... You see we were ONCE again on the BRINK of something amazing. We didn't know it, but HE knew it! Remember that this story of our journey and life is for YOU... to remind YOU tonight/today/tomorrow that you never know when YOUR miracle is 12 hours from occurring. You never know - God could be sending your miracle the very next second. If you'd like to read about where we were one year ago today... CLICK HERE.
Don't give up my precious friends! No matter what the circumstances around you look like! No matter who is believing or trusting with you! No matter how impossible it looks! No matter how you FEEL! DIG into the word... quote scriptures OUT LOUD and remind the Lord of the promises that he has promised YOU! Those scriptures in that bible are for YOU and me! You can trust him! Believe him... HE desires to see YOUR hearts desire come to pass. HE LOVES YOU and cares where you are today! In fact, I believe IF you are reading this, it was for a purpose! :) He knew you needed to read it!
Sorry... I got a little 'preachy' there! Sometimes that just happens when I start writing!
In between talking with my new friends (waiting room companions) I've had LOTS of alone time to think! Phil and I talked on the way here about the past year and we talked about IF we could go back one year in time EXACTLY - back to that court room in Kazak... would we do anything differently?! It was an eye opener for us and made us realize that we needed to live each day with NO regrets! I wish I could look back over the past year and say that I had NO regrets, but, that's not true... We do have things we'd do differently! Goodness...those first few weeks home.. (if I knew what I know now) would most definitely be differently!
So... It's actually 12:45 am here... so in Pavlador, Kazakhstan it's 12:36 pm on Jan. 21, 2012. That means that exactly ONE year ago right now we were at the apartment getting ready to go to court session number 7! It was NOT a fun time... I will never forget it. I don't think we ate anything. I think we were fairly silent and it was a pretty quite place. Phil focused on praise and worship songs on his MP3. I read, reread and quoted EVERY single scripture I could find and remember. I sat at this very laptop at the desk in that apartment and read and reread all YOUR comments and messages. Comments of love, prayers and MASSIVE concern. If you sent us a message - YOU will never know how much to encouraged us! THANK YOU! Some of you sent messages more than once... if that was you.. THANK you a million times over... and if you prayed... thank you a zillion times.
Phil is dozing in and and out of sleep... If you'd have told me where I'd be today ONE year ago right now.. I'd have laughed and said BRING it on! Now.... I'd go back there! Isn't it amazing how life works? Phil had pizza for dinner (it sounded good to him) and I asked him if it was good. He said, "It's ok, but it's NOT Classic Pizza!"
Jan. 21, 2011 - It was the day that the judge FINALLY said YES! It was not what I had anticipated.... now, don't get me wrong... it was awesome, incredible, and amazing! We were humbled, honored, and OH so so thankful! Looking back at the blog, I realize I didn't even update for weeks later... sorry about that!
I honestly got SO sick. I can't even explain how physically sick I became while we were at Krendal's celebrating that night... and it just continued to get worse and worse. I remember the flight from Pavlodar to Almaty - I stayed in the bathroom of that little plane for 80% of the flight... SO sick! It was the physical effects of fighting on so many levels for so long (I think)... and the combination of leaving F and G there. It was heartbreaking, yet ok... because we knew they were REALLY ours.
One year - 365 days ago right now... was life changing for us! We were blessed beyond our wildest imagination and didn't even really know or realize how much we were being 'saved' by two precious, tiny, underweight, miraculous twin babies! 365 days ago they were kissing a book with pictures of their Nana and sisters... TONIGHT they are snuggled up with Nana in her house- sleeping soundly! Their tummies are full, their hearts are full, and I can promise you they KNOW they are loved by their family and an amazing SAVIOR! :)
Then Jesus said,
“Did I not tell you if you believed you would see the Glory of God!”
John 11:41
Trust him... PLEASE... Trust him! It's ALL for YOU Lord... All for YOUR Glory!
I can't wait to see what the next 365 days brings! Bring it Lord! :) Phil and I laughed today and talked about where we'd be on this day next year! You just never know... but, I can promise you this - We will be attempting with EVERYTHING in us to be where he wants us to be!!! :)
.... and the journey continues!!!
Monday, January 16, 2012
A year ago - - and some ramblings! :)
I am honestly so disappointed in myself that I've not made the time to come here and write more often in the past months... but, I haven't... I'm sorry!
I will try to write more and do better... I have SO SO SO SO many posts brewing and in my soul and spirit just waiting to SPILL out that once I ever really get going here it might be unreal the amount to 'stuff' I share... :)
I have no idea if anyone is even still here or reading about our little family, but there are some things I want to share.
Faith and Grace have been home 10 months! Amazing... absolutely amazing....
It honestly feels like they've ALWAYS been here... :) HOWEVER, I can easily (and I mean easily) remember one year ago RIGHT now... Anyone else remember? We were in Kazakhstan - FIGHTING for our girls! We'd had 5 court sessions, been gone from home around 3 months, but had experienced miracle after miracle after miracle!
My post for one year ago today was a tear jerker for me: Click here to read! It is SO easy for me to remember EVERYTHING about that time in our lives. I can remember the smells, sights, sounds.... waking up in the middle of the night in that cold apartment - CRYING out to God! I remember feeling his presence in the midst of spiritual warfare. I remember KNOWING we were battling things beyond ourselves... and KNOWING that our God was GREATER than any power, or force that was against us.
I can also remember days of desperation.... days when I wondered if we would surely crumble under the weight of it all... One year ago today was one of those days when we had to DECIDE if we were going to keep battling or just give up.. IT. WAS. HARD!
Maybe one of you are struggling with something in your own life. Maybe you are waiting on God to move... maybe your heart is breaking. Maybe you are facing situations in your life that 'look' impossible... Don't FEAR... lean on Jesus.. I can promise you that HE WILL COME THROUGH for you. It might 'feel' like he's left you... it might 'feel' like he's forgotten, but rest assured my friends... HE. HAS. NOT. FORGOTTEN. YOU!
Remembering the past few weeks as we walked through that battle one year ago has been emotional for me... it's been amazing to re walk the road again this year... and honestly, it's helped the fights to not seem so loud, the battles to feel not so big and the HUGS and KISSES to be sweeter and longer! :)
Reading back and remembering our life one year ago and the fact that Faith and Grace were in that orphanage tonight one year ago... makes my heart sink. It honestly is SO humbling. I can't even tell you how honored we are that God chose us to walk this road. I feel so unworthy and undeserving. Thank goodness that our God doesn't look at who we are, but what we can become THROUGH and WITH him!
The past 10 months have been AMAZING! I honestly don't know how to find the words to adequately describe it.
There have been ups and there have been downs.
We have experienced everything from massive loving and happiness to tears and meltdowns and fighting! There has been food thrown, hugs given, and snuggles happen. Along with spitting, smiling, and lots of bath time!
I have to admit that the good, happy times WAY out weigh the bad, but there have been times when I've sat down and just cried.
Lots of people have asked us how we are all 'really' doing. It's really easy to answer this question. We are really all doing AWESOME! As I just mentioned, it's not all been a bed of roses and there are still LOTS of times when it's overwhelming around here... but, overall things are incredible.
It's hard to describe the progress that Faith and Grace have honestly made... the BEST way I know to describe it is this: They were two little girls who had NEVER basically been outside the walls and iron fence of an institution in Kazakhstan. Faith had NEVER ridden in a car (since she was 3 months old) and Grace had only ridden in a car ONE time before. It was like taking 2 little babies who were starving for attention, food, love and stimulation and giving them the world. Just imagine what it had/has to be like for them. They are most likely still in shock! ;) I've read LOTS of stories and books and blogs about attachment, bonding, and families... and I know that we've been SUPER blessed! Faith and Grace have both bonded to us like little magnets. Yes, there are some issues and we still have struggles. They get overstimulated easily and we've had to adjust lots.... but, overall they have changed and developed and attached. They are speaking English, singing, playing and going 900 mph nonstop! :)
We've also had LOTS of people ask about the famous big sisters! Bailey and Brooklyn are amazing! I posted on facebook a few times about how incredibly blessed I feel... and I mean that! Baily has matured and stepped into the role of BIGGEST sister in ways that are baffling! She is incredible with them and SO wise beyond her years. Brook has done amazing as well! She has (of course) had a little harder time figuring out her place in all this craziness... but, has LOVED her new role as BIG sister as well. She loves to carry them around and baby them and pretend. Bailey and Brooklyn have both adjusted amazingly well and honestly I once again am in awe of God's amazing plan! Silly - I know! Why would I think he'd do something halfway! It's amazing how when God does something... he takes care of EVERYONE involved!!! Amazing... and just like HIM!
I have lots of pics to share and even a couple of videos, but I'll just have to wait on those...sorry! I really do plan to attempt to post more often and share more of God's dealings and the churnings in my heart. I have NO idea if any of you are interested in reading them... but, maybe they will encourage someone!
I have such a churning in my spirit these past few weeks and God has shown me some things... I don't want to waste ONE second of this precious life of not being in his perfect will.... Life is TOO short!
Remember today that God's Grace is sufficent! I will leave you with Faith's precious prayer at dinner time last night: "Jesus, fank (thank) you dis (this) food... fank(thank) you Mama, Papa - Daddy, Bay bay, Bwookie (Brook), Nan (Nana), Everwfang (everything), and fank (thank) you Jesus - you say no more Faif (Faith) and Gwace (Grace) in orpahange. Amen"
Life my friends - doesn't get any more real that that.... a baby thanking Jesus for saying, "No more Faith and Grace in orphanage!" Thank you Jesus SO much for loving the Fatherless... help us every single day to be MORE LIKE YOU!!!!!
I will try to write more and do better... I have SO SO SO SO many posts brewing and in my soul and spirit just waiting to SPILL out that once I ever really get going here it might be unreal the amount to 'stuff' I share... :)
I have no idea if anyone is even still here or reading about our little family, but there are some things I want to share.
Faith and Grace have been home 10 months! Amazing... absolutely amazing....
It honestly feels like they've ALWAYS been here... :) HOWEVER, I can easily (and I mean easily) remember one year ago RIGHT now... Anyone else remember? We were in Kazakhstan - FIGHTING for our girls! We'd had 5 court sessions, been gone from home around 3 months, but had experienced miracle after miracle after miracle!
My post for one year ago today was a tear jerker for me: Click here to read! It is SO easy for me to remember EVERYTHING about that time in our lives. I can remember the smells, sights, sounds.... waking up in the middle of the night in that cold apartment - CRYING out to God! I remember feeling his presence in the midst of spiritual warfare. I remember KNOWING we were battling things beyond ourselves... and KNOWING that our God was GREATER than any power, or force that was against us.
I can also remember days of desperation.... days when I wondered if we would surely crumble under the weight of it all... One year ago today was one of those days when we had to DECIDE if we were going to keep battling or just give up.. IT. WAS. HARD!
Maybe one of you are struggling with something in your own life. Maybe you are waiting on God to move... maybe your heart is breaking. Maybe you are facing situations in your life that 'look' impossible... Don't FEAR... lean on Jesus.. I can promise you that HE WILL COME THROUGH for you. It might 'feel' like he's left you... it might 'feel' like he's forgotten, but rest assured my friends... HE. HAS. NOT. FORGOTTEN. YOU!
Remembering the past few weeks as we walked through that battle one year ago has been emotional for me... it's been amazing to re walk the road again this year... and honestly, it's helped the fights to not seem so loud, the battles to feel not so big and the HUGS and KISSES to be sweeter and longer! :)
Reading back and remembering our life one year ago and the fact that Faith and Grace were in that orphanage tonight one year ago... makes my heart sink. It honestly is SO humbling. I can't even tell you how honored we are that God chose us to walk this road. I feel so unworthy and undeserving. Thank goodness that our God doesn't look at who we are, but what we can become THROUGH and WITH him!
The past 10 months have been AMAZING! I honestly don't know how to find the words to adequately describe it.
There have been ups and there have been downs.
We have experienced everything from massive loving and happiness to tears and meltdowns and fighting! There has been food thrown, hugs given, and snuggles happen. Along with spitting, smiling, and lots of bath time!
I have to admit that the good, happy times WAY out weigh the bad, but there have been times when I've sat down and just cried.
Lots of people have asked us how we are all 'really' doing. It's really easy to answer this question. We are really all doing AWESOME! As I just mentioned, it's not all been a bed of roses and there are still LOTS of times when it's overwhelming around here... but, overall things are incredible.
It's hard to describe the progress that Faith and Grace have honestly made... the BEST way I know to describe it is this: They were two little girls who had NEVER basically been outside the walls and iron fence of an institution in Kazakhstan. Faith had NEVER ridden in a car (since she was 3 months old) and Grace had only ridden in a car ONE time before. It was like taking 2 little babies who were starving for attention, food, love and stimulation and giving them the world. Just imagine what it had/has to be like for them. They are most likely still in shock! ;) I've read LOTS of stories and books and blogs about attachment, bonding, and families... and I know that we've been SUPER blessed! Faith and Grace have both bonded to us like little magnets. Yes, there are some issues and we still have struggles. They get overstimulated easily and we've had to adjust lots.... but, overall they have changed and developed and attached. They are speaking English, singing, playing and going 900 mph nonstop! :)
We've also had LOTS of people ask about the famous big sisters! Bailey and Brooklyn are amazing! I posted on facebook a few times about how incredibly blessed I feel... and I mean that! Baily has matured and stepped into the role of BIGGEST sister in ways that are baffling! She is incredible with them and SO wise beyond her years. Brook has done amazing as well! She has (of course) had a little harder time figuring out her place in all this craziness... but, has LOVED her new role as BIG sister as well. She loves to carry them around and baby them and pretend. Bailey and Brooklyn have both adjusted amazingly well and honestly I once again am in awe of God's amazing plan! Silly - I know! Why would I think he'd do something halfway! It's amazing how when God does something... he takes care of EVERYONE involved!!! Amazing... and just like HIM!
I have lots of pics to share and even a couple of videos, but I'll just have to wait on those...sorry! I really do plan to attempt to post more often and share more of God's dealings and the churnings in my heart. I have NO idea if any of you are interested in reading them... but, maybe they will encourage someone!
I have such a churning in my spirit these past few weeks and God has shown me some things... I don't want to waste ONE second of this precious life of not being in his perfect will.... Life is TOO short!
Remember today that God's Grace is sufficent! I will leave you with Faith's precious prayer at dinner time last night: "Jesus, fank (thank) you dis (this) food... fank(thank) you Mama, Papa - Daddy, Bay bay, Bwookie (Brook), Nan (Nana), Everwfang (everything), and fank (thank) you Jesus - you say no more Faif (Faith) and Gwace (Grace) in orpahange. Amen"
Life my friends - doesn't get any more real that that.... a baby thanking Jesus for saying, "No more Faith and Grace in orphanage!" Thank you Jesus SO much for loving the Fatherless... help us every single day to be MORE LIKE YOU!!!!!
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